Me on my birthday at my mommy's birthday party

Me on my birthday at my mommy's birthday party

-LAQUASHA LOGAN

Friday (April 21) I turned 27. It may not be a “big year” like 25 or 30, but as I think back I realize that it has still been one of the biggest because of my growth personally, spiritually, and everything else. It may sound cliche, but this is what I have learned.

  1. It’s okay to not be okay. I’ve battled depression for about 10 years now, only one of which has been publicly. I’ve found more comfort in being able to share and face the ridicule, which has not been as bad as I thought, instead of suffering privately assuming that I would be shunned because of it.
  2. Love the people that love you. I have been blessed to have some amazing people around me, and I have consciously chosen to appreciate them instead of dwelling on the few that don’t see my value in their life, or vice versa.
  3. Life is short, but not as short as you think. Even though these days, weeks, months and years are moving, they’re not moving so fast that I can’t enjoy my life as it comes my way.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. Make the mistake, learn from it, then move on.
  5. Take care of yourself. If that means taking off a day to decompress, turning off your phone, or taking yourself on a date, do it for you.
  6. Wear your “good” clothes. I have a closet full of things that I avoid wearing because I always think that it will bring too much attention my way. But, I bought it for me, not for whomever notices it.
  7. Appreciate others. People do nice things for me all the time. I want them to know I appreciate it.
  8. My career is important, but not important enough to drive me crazy.I want to move up, but not at the expense of myself and my sanity.
  9. Will-power is a necessity. I have made goals about all types of things that I have sat and watched not happen. I have learned that nothing will work unless I do.
  10. Relationships change, and that’s ok. I have learned to trust my instincts and either get closer or further away from people as I need to.
  11. Selfishness is okay. Right now I have no children, I live alone, and I’m self sufficient. I should not feel bad for splurging every once in a while.
  12. Celebrating others doesn’t mean I can’t celebrate myself. We can all win. It does not have to be a fight to the death for the top.
  13. Find God for yourself. I was raised a church girl, but I had to find God for myself. Since then, I have felt much more secure in my Christianity and beliefs.
  14. Embrace your emotions. Being an Angry Black Woman has been looked at as a negative trait for so long. But, what’s the difference from feeling any other emotion?
  15. Appreciate your callings. I am stubborn and I like to fight what I know I should be doing. But, I gotta stop that.
  16. Pay your bills on time! Because they do not go away if you don’t answer your phone.
  17. Speak up for yourself. A lot of the opportunities I have are because I have spoken up and said I wanted it. How else would they know?
  18. Give. All of the time. It feels good.
  19. Tell your friends you love them. Because they deserve to know.
  20. Travel alone. At least once. See something for yourself, by yourself.
  21. Save those coins so you can travel.
  22. Forgive. I didn’t realize how much hate I had in my heart until I released it. You have to let it go.
  23. Listen to others. I’ve learned so much just from listening to others, and really taking it in. Knowledge is transferable.
  24. Trust yourself. I’ve made some great decisions, after making bad ones, especially when I didn’t trust myself. So, I’m going with my gut.
  25. Tell the truth. It’s so much easier than remembering the stories.
  26. Cry when you need to, and laugh when you’re done. Emotions are meant to be felt. Feel them, embrace them, and move forward.
  27. Take your time. Things happen for a reason, and life is meant to be lived. Enjoy every moment, even the bad ones.

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